First Psychology blog

Today is Valentine's Day, a day when we traditionally celebrate the love we share with our partner by giving them tokens of our love - often in the shape of heart-shaped chocolates or red roses. But what if things aren't as rosy as you'd like? Keep talking Keep communicating with your partner and tell them how you feel. When you've been together for years it can be easy to assume that your partner can read your mind. Talk to them about your day, about things that are on your mind, and about your relationship - communication is the key to any successful relationship. Listen to your partner Make sure your partner gets a chance to speak about their experiences too. Listen carefully to what they have to say and take their concerns seriously. It may sound simple, but a common reason for conflict in a relationship is poor communication. Minimise arguments Try to avoid arguing at times when you may feel tired or stressed as things can escalate very quickly. G...

With valentine's day fast approaching our attentions often turn to matters of the heart, but what if you haven't met that special someone yet? Here are some top tips on finding your ideal partner. Spotting that special someone No matter where you are - looking online, at your local pub, or even just walking down the street - you need to know who you're looking for. Think about the qualities that matter to you and be really honest with yourself. Try and sort in your mind the qualities that are  'must-haves' and those that are desirable but not necessarily deal breakers. Shared values When you meet someone for the first time, there's no denying that first impressions count. We take just a few seconds to decide whether we're interested in someone or not. However, once things move on and become more serious, ask yourself if you and your partner have shared goals and values. Do you respect them? Partners who share similar values and have a mutual respect fo...

The winter weather coupled with a lack of daylight - not to mention sunshine - can leave us feeling as dark as the sky. We've put together some tips to help brighten your mood and put a spring in your step. 1. Change your routine - We're not talking about big changes, but the little things, such as going for a walk at lunchtime rather than sitting at your desk with a sandwich. When you feel that you're stuck in a rut and unable to change, the little things can help you regain control of the situation and lead to much bigger things in the longer term. 2. Take some exercise - The links between regular exercise and greater wellbeing are well documented. The important thing is to find something you like doing so you will continue to do it. 3. Phone a friend - If you're feeling low it is easy to shy away from social contact. However keeping in regular contact with people who care about you can be a great mood booster. 4. Watch what you eat - The mind and body work t...