People can be very quick to judge another person’s actions or intentions without giving any consideration to why they acted in a such a way. Not only can this create negative thoughts in our own minds, but our reactions can also be damaging to the other person.
What is compassion?
How to be compassionate
- Before you react to a person’s words or actions, ask yourself if you could have the wrong end of the stick. Sometimes we can misinterpret things depending on our mood, and any form of written communication such as emails or text messages, can very easily be misconstrued.
- Question the other person’s current situation or past experiences. Perhaps they are going through something traumatic in their lives, and although their words may seem abrasive, they might be feeling stressed and don’t intend to offend anyone. Similarly, if you haven’t heard from a close friend or family member for a while, you shouldn’t automatically assume it’s because they are ignoring you, rather, they may be busy with work, or are struggling with a personal problem.
- Before you prejudge someone, give them the benefit of the doubt.
- Also remember self-compassion and don’t beat yourself up over making a mistake or feeling as though you’re not good enough.
- Practise acts of kindness that show people you care.
- Ask people how they are feeling and take the time to listen to them.