Positive things we should say more often

When used constructively, the words that we choose to speak can have a positive impact on both yourself and others. Similarly, negative or offensive language can be detrimental to our mental wellbeing. Ultimately, the language we use can determine how we feel about ourselves. 

While the use of negative words can reduce our self-esteem or make us feel angry and sad, positive words can increase our self-confidence and make us feel happy. Words provide an extremely powerful tool that can shape our beliefs and influence our behaviour so it’s important that we choose them wisely not only to improve our own mental health but also those around us.

Referenced by the Business Relationship Management Institute, the book called Words Can Change your Brain, written by neuroscientist Dr Andrew Newberg and communications expert Mark Robert Waldman, states that “a single word has the power to influence the expression of genes that regulate physical and emotional stress”.

Positive things we can say

I love you – Possibly the greatest words you can say to anyone. The three words “I love you” speak a thousand words as the person not only accepts you for who you are but also loves you for all your faults, which is the best compliment of all.

I’m sorry – Not only does “I’m sorry” mean that the person respects you, but it also means they have considered your feelings and regret any upset they have caused you.

Please/thank you – Although it’s basic manners to say please and thank you, whether to a stranger or someone you know, it’s a way of showing respect to others. Generally, most people will appreciate you using manners and it can have a positive impact on their day and how they treat others.

I’m always here for you – When someone is feeling anxious, stressed or depressed, it’s not uncommon for them to believe that they are alone and have no one to talk to, so by reminding them that you are there for them can be reassuring.

Do you want to talk? – Many people find it difficult to ask for help or talk to someone when they’re struggling as they feel it can be a sign of weakness and are afraid that they’ll be judged. By offering your ear you might encourage someone to release their thoughts and feelings, which can have a huge impact on their wellbeing.

You’re stronger than you think – Stress and depression can be extremely damaging to physical and mental health, often leaving a person feeling unable to cope with day-to-day tasks. A gentle reminder of how strong they are might just give them the push they need to keep going and overcome difficult situations.

Well done – Many people are so busy juggling their careers and home lives that sometimes they only see the negatives and don’t realise how much they have achieved in their lives, especially in the workplace. Whether you congratulate a work colleague, friend or family member on their achievements, even the smallest amount of recognition can go a long way to boosting someone’s confidence and making them feel appreciated.